Without Jesus working inside of me, I would be an "unfun" gal to live with. I would be critical, cranky, sharp, and unkind a lot of the time. These are not the qualities I want my husband to experience as he lives in the same house with me. I want him to wake up to a pleasant, peaceful, respectful, and joyful wife. A wife who is patient, kind and shows her love for him in a various of ways.
It's crystal clear to me that I am completely at the mercy of the Lord Jesus as I strive to be a good wife to Sean. God wants His love to flow out of me and onto Sean, but I have to be a vessel that is open to receiving that love first. I must have God's love and kindness inside of me before I can pour it out on Sean. This happens when I spend time in the Word and in communion with God. He fills me up so I have what I need when my flesh rears its ugly head.
Perhaps you are struggling to be the wife you want to be. The first step is intentionally asking God to help you. The second step is getting filled up daily with His love, patience, and kindness. The third step is listening and being available to respond to the Holy Spirit when He gently nudges you to allow your spirit to respond instead of letting your flesh have its way.
I am learning to listen better. When I do, I am a more loving wife. I'm praying for all you wives out there. I know it's not easy some days, but God is with you and He is on your side.