It has made me think...does he like me? I know he loves me...he tells me all the time and shows me in action too, but does he like me? Does he like having me around? Does he like spending time with me? Does he look forward to me coming home? When he thinks of something fun to do, does he think of doing it with me? Something besides sex, of course. ;)
Marriage is tough sometimes. Anyone who is married can attest to this truth. But the hard is what makes a marriage good. It makes it worth doing. Living life alongside another human being has its challenges, but also big rewards.
Like anything in life you want to do well...you must do it with intention. What would happen if you intentionally began to be a wife or husband that your spouse really liked. Not just loved, but really liked.
What would it take for that to happen? What might you need to stop doing or start doing? What words or tones of conversation might need to be adjusted? What effort could be put forth to draw your husband or wife to you, instead of away from you?
Think about what makes you like a person. What draws you to them.
I like people who are... steady in their emotions. Not up one day and down the next. I like people who are positive, not negative. I like people who build up those around them instead of tearing them down. I like a person who smiles a lot. I like people who give others the benefit of the doubt. I like people who let go of offenses easily. I like a grateful person. I like people who don't complain. I like a person who is careful with words.
What about you? What draws you to people? What makes you like a person?
Part of being intentional is spending time thinking about these questions...not blowing them off, but really answering them, then being that person yourself.
Your husband or wife won't be able to help themselves...they will really like you!