If you are wondering about this.....spend a little time in the Song of Songs written by Solomon and really see where His heart is on this matter. His heart is evident when God places an entire book in the Bible that reads as this amazing love story and is very detailed in how they loved each other and appreciated each others' bodies and spoke to one another.
I also firmly believe this is an area where the enemy loves to play games and it's an easy foothold for him to make rough waters in a marriage. We need to guard our marriages against apathy, weariness, business, and a wandering eye. The easiest and quickest way to combat these things to keep them out of the bedroom is prayer.
Yes, I mean it......pray about your intimacy or the lack of it. Ask the Lord to take over, to help you be engaged, to bring back that fun/flirty girl you used to be in the early years. Ask Him to guide you in your daily routine to make sure you aren't too tired again this evening. When you are being pursued and you feel like "I just don't have this in me tonight!"......stop and ask the Lord to help you love this man of yours the way He intended. I promise you, He will show up and help you EVERY time!
There is nothing more powerful than the connection we have when we are consistently intimate with our man and when we both are filled with this kind of love. Consistent, passionate love between you two will create an impenetrable shield around your marriage that the enemy and this world cannot tear apart.
My challenge for you this week.....pray about your intimacy and ask God to make it stronger and more vibrant than it has been in years. Go ahead, it's His gift.....His idea and He desires for you to live this part of marriage to the fullest!