To quote a line from a movie (not sure which one!), "I told you I loved you on our wedding day, if I change my mind, I'll let you know!"
As humorous as this line is.....in reality it's quite sad. What a pitiful way to live in a relationship, always wondering if you are still loved. Having to ask, "Do you love me?"
So, back to the question......do you know how your spouse interprets love?
Gary Chapman, in his book The Five Love Languages, describes in detail five ways in which we receive love.
- Physical Touch
- Acts of Service
- Words of Affirmation
- Gifts (receiving them)
- Quality Time
If your love language is Acts of Service and you wonder why your husband doesn't jump for joy whenever you...do the laundry, cook a meal, clean the bathroom you both use, or pack his lunch...the reason is his love language is Quality Time....and all he wants is for you to ride along with him on his next trip to the golf course and spend time with him.
Or perhaps your love language is Words of Affirmation and you are constantly telling him how much you appreciate him and building him up with words...although he appreciates your kind words, he would rather you offer to rub his back or initiate sex as you get into bed (or any other time of day!)....because his love language is Physical Touch.
Every love language is important....each one of us receives love differently. Most of the time, in a marriage, it's not the same. Why? Because God, in His great knowledge and understanding of what marriage is supposed to be, wants us to think outside of our own comfort and self. He wants us considering the needs of our spouse first....before ourselves. He wants us to give.....even out of our comfort zone....so His love can be poured out on another.
Tonight, sit down with your spouse and ask him or her this question..."When do you feel most loved by me?
Listen to their response and figure out what love language it falls under...talk about the love languages together and make it a goal together to love one another in each others love language. It could prove to be a powerful moment in your relationship.
Let us know what your love language is....let's just see how different we all are! Leave a comment and let's get a conversation started!
I'll get the ball rolling.....my love language is Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service. And by the way....my man does a FABULOUS job at making me feel loved! Thanks Hon!