But sometimes all those opinions can hurt relationships. Have you ever gotten into a heated debate over differing opinions? You try to keep the conversation light, perhaps laugh a bit, but deep inside you are trying very hard to keep it together as you cannot believe this person sees the picture differently than you do! How dare they?!
A few years ago an idea was introduced to us via my mother and has become a staple response in our home. She is fabulous at imparting wisdom to her children. I only hope to be as wise one day!
As we were jokingly disagreeing one day, she said, "Well, you can just chalk that up to a "PP". " "A what?"I asked. "A "PP"....a personal preference."
She went on to explain how she realized a lot of "disagreements" come out of a difference in personal preference. Not because someone is right and someone is wrong, but because one person feels one way about something and another feels another way.
- Pots and pans DO NOT go in the top shelf of the dishwasher. "PP"
- Sauerkraut tastes DELICIOUS! "PP"
- Iron Man was the classiest movie ever made...should've won an Oscar! "PP"
- Pantyhose are SO comfortable! "PP"
- Desserts with fruit, are the BEST! "PP"
- EVERYONE should homeschool their kids. "PP"
- There is nothing better first thing in the morning than a cup of coffee. "PP"
- You should make your bed everyday. "PP"
- It's easier to exercise in the morning. "PP"
- Diet Coke tastes so much better than regular Coke. "PP"
Do you get my point? None of the above matter...if someone wants to put their pots and pans on the top shelf, who cares? If someone hates to make their bed, how is that any of your business?
The thing is this...when we act like someone's personal preference is wrong, just because we feel differently, we are disrespecting them. No one has the right to tell you it's easier to exercise in the morning...when you prefer to exercise in the evening, or early afternoon, or midnight. It's a personal preference.
So in our house we have adopted the right for anyone, at anytime, to say, "PP"....it literally stops the discussion. Because whoever is trying to be "right" is stopped in their tracks as they realize "Hmmm....you are right and I have no right to try to change your mind."
We laugh. We smile. We respect. We move on.
The power in the "PP"... why not try it in your house!