As I sat to write my vows, I had a lot more understanding of exactly what I was promising this time around. Twenty five years of marriage will give you that perspective. I had fun giving these vows a lot of thought. There were some funny, everyday stuff, like promising not to add anymore pillows to our bed. (10 is probably enough!) And then there was serious stuff, like promising to believe with him for miracles in our life and to be a truster, not a doubter.
When we get married, we simply cannot know what is ahead of us. If you have been married for any length of time, you know what I mean. Marriage is the most wonderful union and plan God ever created, but.......man, it's hard. It's hard work. It's hard sacrifice. It's hard loving. It's hard giving up. It's hard forgiving. It's hard. But.....if the work is done under God's hand, He turns the "hard" into "wonderful."
You may be walking through a season of "hard" right now in your marriage. I want to encourage you to be tough today and hang in there and love hard. God is with you and wants your marriage to get through this tough season. You may have to love without feeling loved back. Sometimes that is simply what is needed. But remember God's love is inside of you to give. His love changes hearts. His love is powerful. Ask Him to help you today to love your spouse with His love.
If your marriage is in a thriving season today....rejoice! Live in the moment and savor it! Don't take it for granted.....put a lot of thought and words to your love. Express it! It's in these wonderful seasons that we plant for the tough seasons. We plant words of affirmation. We plant seeds of intimacy. We plant seeds of trust. You will reap a harvest in the tough times, when you have taken advantage of the good times to purposely sow healthy seed into your relationship.
What would you vow to your spouse today if you were to renew your wedding vows? Think about that this week and write them down. If you feel prompted, why not speak these vows to your spouse? There is no need for a formal "ceremony." Take a quiet moment and let him or her know what your promise is to them. They will mean more this time around because you will both know they are coming from a place of experiencing what marriage is really all about.
This is my prayer over your marriage today....