This past week Kevin came home and announced that he unexpectedly had to leave. My tone carried disappointment, "leaving again......for how long?" Somehow after all these years, I still have to work my head around his absence. It seems crazy that it doesn't matter if it's 10 days or 10 months.....I always hate for Kevin, my husband, to leave town. As time has marched on and we have weathered many separations, short and long, I have watched many marriages struggle with the isolation that deployment or a traveling job creates. The isolation of physical presence, communication, conversation, laughing, and touching. These are the things that I long for when he is gone but I've found a small way to help during these times and at the same time it screams to my man....."I LOVE YOU AND I'M WAITING FOR YOU!"
Just before Kevin leaves on a deployment or short training/trip I pick up a stack of Post-it Notes, grab different pens, and begin to write. On each Post-it I write just a little something to him such as "I'm so blessed to be yours!" "you are such a great dad...I love watching you with the kids" or "Sleep tight....I wish you were in my bed tonight!" and tuck them in various places in his bags. I may put a little note about how handsome he is in his shaving kit, or a note about loving how he takes care of himself in his running shoes, and I ALWAYS write a couple of intimate notes about how I can't wait for his return! You see, these notes help guard his heart and mind....he knows..... 1) that he's MY MAN! 2) I'm so proud of him and appreciate what he does to provide for our family, and most importantly 3) I long for his return and I can't wait to be with him! They also make me think about what I love about him!
There are times between work-ups, trainings, and deployments where Kevin is not gone much at all.....the Post-it idea still works wonders! Sometimes I will just put a note on his dash so when he gets in the car to start the day he knows that I believe he can do anything and I'm so proud to be his wife. Other times I will place a note in a book he's reading or in his calendar so that it will be a nice surprise in the middle of his day! Ladies, I believe this speaks volumes to our men and they need to be encouraged and lifted up by us!
So, give it a whirl, pick up a Post-it and get started! I'd love to hear about the response you get when you post it for him!